Perimenopause doesn't have to mean losing yourself for the next decade.

You know that feeling of walking through treacle, even though you’re sleeping more now the kids are out of the nappy stage?

You snap at the kids over something tiny and regret it before you've even finished the sentence.

You've started pulling back when your son goes in for a hug because you're touched out, then lie awake wondering if you're teaching him to stop coming.

You've taken time off work to try and destress but you already know it’ll just repeat again because nothing’s actually changed.

You've got a shelf of supplements you bought because someone on Instagram said they worked, but you can’t remember what half of them do.

Things that never bothered you have randomly turned up – allergies, bloating, rapid weight gain – and this year you've stopped being able to ignore them.

You’ve read up all the symptoms and think you’re in perimenopause but your GP says you’re too young and to exercise more.

If that sounds like you then you're in the right place.

You’re not starting from neutral

Everyone talks about perimenopause like it's a decade to grit your teeth through. Nobody talks about why mums get hit so hard, and how much of what you're feeling now traces back to what happened to your body in pregnancy.

Pregnancy prioritises the baby, pulling nutrients from the mother’s body. And since most people go into pregnancy already depleted, it’s pulling from reserves that leave little left for you. And then childbirth, breastfeeding, broken sleep and the stress of balancing work and family life come into play, and you got so used to putting yourself last that you stopped noticing what feeling properly fed and rested even feels like.

Suddenly you’ve hit 40 with almost nothing left.

That's why you're snapping over nothing. That's why the cravings feel impossible to argue with. That's why you're standing in the supplement aisle grabbing the cheapest magnesium, because nobody's ever told you what your body actually needs.

Imagine knowing exactly what to reach for at breakfast so you're not fighting cravings by 3pm.
Imagine your child coming in for a hug and you're ready, instead of touched out, flinching, your mind on the other things that seem so important.
Imagine looking at the next 10 years and feeling something other than dread, because you know what's happening in your body and what to do about it.

That's what it means to stop gritting your teeth through this decade and start rebuilding what it's taken from you.

Because it’s not too late to do something about it.

And it starts with breaking up with the belief that your needs come last, and retraining yourself to nourish and feed yourself.

How we do that

No matter what your starting point or how we work together, we start with food, because it’s the foundation of everything.

And my philosophy is to start exactly where you are and build on what you're already eating. We don’t do restriction, counting or elimination (unless it’s genuinely necessary). We look at your current meal habits and add the good stuff to it – we up the nutrient density one meal at a time.

Enough clients have done this for long enough that they've started calling the result a "Tasha meal."

And over time the good stuff starts to crowd out the stuff that isn’t helping you, often without you even noticing.

Once the foundation is set, then we can go deeper.

I call this The Rebuild Method.

Here’s how it works:

1. Add before you take away.
Add the food that properly fuels you, that nourishes your gut, that feeds your brain, starting with the meals you already cook. And then we keep building.

2. Find out what's running low.
Work out what’s depleted so we can start plugging the gaps fast. We don’t just work with reference range, we look at optimal ranges – because we’re not in the business of not being unwell, we’re in the business of optimising and thriving. Once we know what’s missing, then we can start rebuilding.

3. Understand what's happening.
What perimenopause is actually doing to your hormones, your digestion and your energy, explained properly. Learn to read the signs and symptoms your body is telling you. When you know what’s going on you can start building straight away, without waiting for someone to tell you what's wrong with it.

4. Find your rhythm.
Women have daily and monthly rhythms that change and adapt as we age – and so we optimise within the natural cycles. We set things up so your day goes to plan, your nights bring actual rest, adapt across the month and embrace the changing seasons of the year. When you build your life around your rhythms, you stop trying to fit other people’s expectations of you.

5. Go deeper where it's stuck.
And once things starts settling in one area, others might start showing up, and so the work starts again – we dig into it, discover the gaps, and plug them in – except now you’re starting from a better place.

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